RE: [pf] we took the wrong track, in the '50s and '60s

by Fitzsimmons, Diane

05 December 2000 17:19 UTC

I've got no answers, either, David.  Sometimes I think there are just some
people who are hard-wired differently.

Last night my husband and I watched "Father of the Bride," the 1990s
version.  Funny film, but about as real to me as "The Matrix."  Story
revolves around a factory owner and his wide (who is also a business owner)
portrayed as just regular folks (house has to be at least 3,000 square
feet).  The upshot is that dad eventually goes along with the plan to give
his daughter a dream wedding that costs $250 a head for 573 guests.

Now I grant you that very few people spend $100,000-plus on weddings.  But
I'm not sure my husband and I spent $250 period on our wedding. And the
reason is not because we didn't have the money.  Even if we did, I couldn't
in good conscience do that.

Why is it that I feel so strongly that way?  And always have?  Why do so
many other people feel so strongly the other way?

>From the time I was young I never understood why people wanted big
speedboats or fancy cars or fill in the blank with a luxury item.  But offer
me a comfortable, faded armchair, a good book and a pot of tea by a sunny
window -- now there is heaven!

The only answer that has ever made sense to me -- I'm hard-wired
differently.  I'm not sure my way could ever be contagious to other people.

Diane Fitzsimmons
Norman, Okla.